Divorce and the Emotional Security
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Divorce and the Emotional Security

A lot of people in America do not see divorce as a bad thing. And, their ideas of freedom are only getting them into deeper and deeper entanglement. Probably nowhere else in the world do women have as much physical freedom as American women have. But probably nowhere else in the world, are women as tense, nervous, and agitated as women are in America.

A Failed Idea of Freedom

This is not freedom. This is only an idea of freedom, which is not working well. If it is breaking people and half the population is on anti-depressants, it is obviously not working. There should be a more mature idea of freedom – something that will work No matter how educated and intellectual you think you are, emotion is still a strong dimension of who you are. When emotions arise, they become the most powerful thing in you. Your thoughts are not that powerful. Even if pleasant emotions are not that strong, at least anger, fear, and anxiety are – these are all emotions gone bad.

When emotion is an important part of your life and you ignore this, you will suffer. Even if the physical survival is happening very well still if your emotions are trampled upon, you cannot remain there. So, not only is it important to work towards financial security, but society should work towards emotional security as well. That is missing in the US right now – not just for women, even for men. This is one reason why America will go down economically.

Right now, the community that does best in the universities of the United States is the Indian community, next comes the Jewish community. It is because they have emotional security. Until they are 25 years of age, till they finish university, everything is taken care of for them. Parents are committed to their children, and children are committed to them in turn. That is not so with American children. By the time they finish university, they have already seen three boyfriends or six girlfriends – with all the emotional upheavals, jealousies, problems, and struggles. Before they stand up on their feet, they have seen too much life, which is making them incapable.

If you randomly pick people anywhere in the US, at least eight out of 20 do not do anything productive. The main reasons for that are the emotional upheavals that they go through from the age of 12 or 13, when they are dealing with things that they are not old enough to deal with. As a result, no one has any emotional security.

Today, someone claims they love you; tomorrow morning they may go away with someone else. This fear, both in men and women, will not let them focus on doing anything. In the Indian business community, by the time the boy is 21 and the girl is 18, they are married. They still go to the university, but they are married and committed to each other. By the time they are 23 or 24, they are into serious business, and their life is very secure. They are bound for life – there are no two ways about it Just that one area of life being absolutely secure gives you the ability to be productive.

Bringing Commitment Back

Emotional security is an extremely important aspect for any human being and for any society to flourish. Unfortunately, due to a juvenile concept of freedom in America, they have lost this emotional security. That way, people are becoming incapable of many things. They are always afraid what will happen if they do something wrong. Let’s say you were supposed to go on a holiday this weekend but you could not because you had something to do, you may get a divorce notice on Monday morning.

This may not be true in every home, but it is happening on a large scale. It is no more an individual but a social problem in the United States. Such problems are there in every society for a few individuals, but when it becomes a major social problem, when lots of people are facing similar issues, we have to see how to strengthen their emotional life. Without that, people cannot lead productive lives

It is very important that a culture of commitment is brought back. The people who built the United States from scratch had stable lives. Without that, they could not have built America into a great nation because no man or woman can be truly productive when their emotions are all freaked out. A certain sense of emotional fulfillment is needed for human beings to function beautifully in life. Otherwise they cannot – unless they have transcended these things and it does not matter to them anymore. If someone has reached that place in his life, then nothing matters.

Another Way Out

One of these things must happen to people – either they must become meditative, or they must have emotional security. Right now, with all the freedom they have, people are not having a good life. In the name of freedom, they have removed all the stop signs. It seems like the Indian road scene is happening to the American emotion. Everyone is going somewhere, but no one knows where they are going – the only thing is they have to be free. In the name of freedom, they lose all structures that keep them on track.

If creating emotional security is not possible, the only way out is to make people meditative because it will take care of several aspects – it will settle the emotions, people will progress spiritually, and their brains will also work better.

Ranked amongst the fifty most influential people in India, Sadhguru is a yogi, mystic, visionary and bestselling author. Sadhguru has been conferred the "Padma Vibhushan" by the Government of India in 2017, one of the highest annual civilian awards, accorded for exceptional and distinguished service.