Children, it is human nature to try to blame the circumstances or others when facing failure. However, if we honestly reflect, will see that most often we ourselves are the cause of our failure. If we are willing to look within and recognise our own weaknesses, we can overcome any problem.
Imagine we are walking down the street and some garbage falls on to us from a terrace. We look up and see someone standing up there. We can become angry or we can forgive him, deciding to believe it was not done on purpose.
Sometimes the situations themselves will be unfavourable. However, in such cases, what option do we have but to accept things with a peaceful mind? For example, let us imagine that while walking in a mango grove, an overripe mango falls on our head and its smelly, rotten juice runs all down or face. Consumed with anger, we curse the mango and the tree. Still not satisfied, we blame earth’s gravitational pull as well! If we do this, we will look like a real fool because it is only natural for mangos to fall when they become ripe—right? In reality, it is the same when the circumstances of life go against us as well. It is simply the natural time for that. We should learn to accept such situations without becoming upset. This doesn’t mean we cannot try to remedy this situation. Of course we can, but even then we should do so with tranquillity.
Most of the problems life throws our way can be overcome with effort. When others mistreat us, we can either confront them or forgive them. We have the freedom. Nevertheless, we have to accept certain situations as God’s will and consider them as inevitable parts of life.
When confronted with problems and failures, we should not blame the circumstances or others. We should use such situations to try to overcome our own weaknesses. We should try to understand the real cause of our problems and failures. When we fail, we should try again, without falling apart emotionally. When things are out of our control, we must train our mind to learn to accept the situation. Do not get frustrated. Learn to safeguard your presence of mind as if it were the most precious treasure.
Sometimes when we receive prasadam from a temple, we may find a stone or some dirt in it. If so, we will just remove that part and eat it with devotion. Similarly, we must be able to receive everything life presents us with a peaceful and accepting mind. If we can do this, our mind will become more and more disciplined and purified. We will be on the road to peace.
Amma, Sri Mata Amritanandamayi Devi