it is human nature to have various expectations about others and then to feel sad and blame others when those expectations are not met.
Expectationsare like a lamp shedding light onone’s life path.But the dark shadow that remains when thoseexpectations are unmetis formed of anger, hatred and disappointment.We need that light, but at the same time,its shadow must not cast darkness. Thus, it is of utmost importance to nurture a balanced view of life.
An elephant is an elephant; a frog is a frog.But when our perspectivegoes awry, the elephant becomes a frog and the frog becomes an elephant. The expectations that arise from such a deluded perspective will never be met. We should not let this happen. There is nothing wrong with having faith in others, but we must be prepared to facethe reality that they may not live up to our expectations.
Once, a lady was working as a preschool teacher.We see that whenever seasons change, infectious illnesses like flu go on the rise.During one of those seasons, a student came to class wearing a surgical mask. “Whyis this child so afraid of getting sick?” thought the teacher. With sarcasm in her voice, she said, “Son, if you’re so afraid of germs, how will you ever live in this day and age?”
The child answered,“Miss, I have a bad cold.I am wearing this mask to prevent it from spreading to others.”
Just like this teacher, we often come to wrong conclusions and assumptions about others.This is like judging a book by its cover.
To have expectations is human nature.However,we must remember that expectations are like bubbles that can burst at any moment.Children play happily with soap bubbles, seeing the colours of the rainbow shining in them.When they burst, they just make more bubbles and continue their play.They don’t lamentover the burst bubbles and wallow in sadness.It isunfortunate that the samehappiness and enjoyment seen in children is absent in adults, who ironically take pride in their experience and knowledge of the world.Those who can accept all life experiences as a play are truly fortunate.They have true mental equanimity.
Amma, Sri Mata Amritanandamayi Devi